Communicating with your Ex can be a minefield of hurts, innuendos, and perceived or real slights.
Here are some common mistakes you can avoid with a little planning:
1. Leaving your electronic devices unattended–snooping eyes can discover and misconstrue any information you have on your devices
2. Failing to regularly update passwords on email, phone, tablet, confidential computer files, and social media files
3. Keeping a written list of passwords in a place you think no one will look; remember, your ex knows you as few others do
4. Failing to update your privacy settings on social media sites
5. Trusting friends and family to not forward your latest pictures, rants or escapades on Facebook, Twitter and other social media sites
6. Sending emails and leaving phone messages that convey feelings, rather than trying to achieve a goal
7. Using a shared device to communicate with your attorney, even though the communications with your attorney are privileged, if your ex finds them then the information they convey can be exploited
8. Using work computers to create a level of privacy–these systems are not as private as you think, that IT worker might be reading every email going through the system.
9. Spying on communications to and from your ex without proper legal approval
10. Setting up spyware to track your ex’s online activities–you might be breaking state or federal law!